Lets Talk About Sex

My work colleagues and I, are attending a two-day course called HIV/AIDS Peer Education Program. I know. It sounds boring. I was kinda skeptical too when i was informed that I’d be among those attending the course. Like many others, I’d later learn, I was wondering what it is that I have not heard about AIDS yet? Sure enough with all i have learned in the 26 years of my life, I can hold a whole 5 hour lecture on AIDS and take questions. :-) But for today, I was the student.

First of all ,we were made to appreciate that, it is impossible to talk about AIDS without talking about sex. Therefore, there was going to be a lot of sex talk in the next two days.

As part of the introduction, which included one’s age and marital status, the trainers asked us to answer this question. “If you knew you were HIV positive today, what would you do?”

Most people said they’d be shocked at first but live positively (which i believe is easier said than done). One lady was quite honest and said that she is not sure she’d cope with it. There was a light moment as a guy, a statistician, declared that, that would be no big deal.. he’d just be another statistic. :)

There were giggles and blushes here and there as one of the trainers introduced himself. “We are in the sex business!” he said of himself and his fellow trainers. “If people stopped having sex, we’d be out of business”, he added, much to our amusement.

No one raised their hand when we were asked. “By a show of hands, how many of us are virgins?”

If we knew, we would have saved our blushes for what was to follow a few minutes into the training when we were divided into two groups and given an assignment.

Here is the assignment: The first group was asked to write the following words in their mother tongues.

Sex | Penis | Vagina |Breasts| Oral sex |Anal sex |Buttocks | Homosexuality

The second group was to write the same words in sheng. Both groups were told to write the answers on charts and pin them on the wall.

Luckily, I was in the second group. It’s definitely easier to say rasa than […i dare you to fill the blank…] :-) Amusingly, written down on a white chart and pinned on the wall, they don’t look like insults!

The  point? If you are to be a peer educator then you need to talk to whoever you are educating in a language that will not find offend them. This way, you will communicate. And what better way than asking those you are educating to define those words, themselves. Remember, it’s not possible to talk about AIDS without talking about sex.

If there is anything they want to achieve by taking us through this course is to ensure that we refer to sex as sex and not to hide it in flowery names when we talk about it. And talk we must, about sex if we want to make a difference. Because, we were taught, the reason more and more people are getting infected with HIV is because people are not talking about sex, before having sex.

Tomorrow is day two of the course. I am looking forward to another day out of the office learning much more, which I shall not keep to myself but share , right here! Charity begins at home.

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12 comments for “Lets Talk About Sex

  1. September 16, 2010 at 7:55 pm

    …very interesting. Cant wait to get home so that we can discuss this sex business, only that this time round you will be the teacher and I the student :)

    • September 20, 2010 at 8:55 am

      Thanks. I’ll be happy to recruit another HIV/AIDS peer educator! :-)

  2. Anne
    September 17, 2010 at 12:54 am

    … mmh Christie! I can’t believe what you are teaching now. This blog is helping for sure :-)

    • September 20, 2010 at 8:51 am

      Haha! I did teach him for sure! He can testify lol

  3. 16yroldKenyanGuy
    September 17, 2010 at 10:56 am

    I’ve never attended a sex/HIV/AIDS lesson. I guess (most) paroz and teachers are still not yet comfortable with it.
    This is very funny. They mostly give sex/HIV/AIDS education to grown-ups.

    PS: Could you enable the strike-through effect in comments?

    • September 20, 2010 at 8:50 am

      They are making an effort now(the society) with peer education classes etc. Many parents are now attempting to talk about sex with their kids. It is very important to get the facts. Thankfully these are available all around us even on the internet.

      PS Done!

  4. 16yroldKenyanGuy
    September 21, 2010 at 10:05 pm

    Good Thank You.
    I get what you’re saying but I just think that it would be best if paroz talked to their kids – not the kids having to go to the net to look it up for themselves.
    No argument being brought up here, just a statement.

  5. September 23, 2010 at 10:48 am

    Alexious, is the lesson you learnt one that you can retrain someone, for instance, me? 😀

  6. September 23, 2010 at 12:00 pm

    @Matrixster Absolutely! In fact I can fast track the lesson to just a few hours or we could do evening classes ama part time basis. A she companion, is also a requirement for the lesson :)

  7. October 7, 2010 at 3:10 pm

    I’m one of those people who thinks they know all there is to know about sex and AIDS. This was a good read.

  8. November 1, 2015 at 6:58 am

    I have always been afraid of the sex and Aids topic, most of us are; blame it on my ignorance,though your right its only through education and learning about sex and Aids that we can curb it. Informative piece.

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